Life is Happening For You, Not To You
Every so often we may go through times where just as we are getting comfortable with things, or right when we feel that things are working out for us, life throws another difficulty our way. We may find ourselves in hard times, trying to understand and accept these hindrances. Sometimes we might even catch ourselves asking the "Why me?" or thinking how unfair life is.
This is a writing I found on Spirit Science talking about our Soul Contract, life purpose, etc. This is some nice perspective when trying to find peace in situations, obstacles, people, etc. We are all on our own unique journeys, working on different things to develop and grow as our Souls journey through eternity. This is just a perspective, nothing too serious :)
Before we are born we are asked just one question by our soul family. “What is it you would like to learn this lifetime?” It is then, in our answer, that soul contracts are formed.
If we wish to learn patience, we will not ask to be surrounded by Zen Masters, but rather people (siblings for example) who will push our buttons and annoy us to the ends of the earth. If we wish to learn love, we will be shown hate, and no matter the lesson, we ask that the opposite be brought to us for example, if self confidence is chosen, then friends in disguise will come and step on us.
It is within this very principle that all soul contracts are based, for it is only in being stepped on that we have no choice but to learn to STAND UP for ourselves.
Self development can be a deeply painful process that by nature requires us to be scrubbed. It is in the repetitive scrubbing of a diamond that it gains its sparkle and we are no different. There are two kinds of pain - learning pain and abusive pain. While the latter serves little to no purpose, the former is fundamental to our growth as human beings.
The universe in its infinite love for us will continue to send us lessons, and one of the most frustrating truths to accept is as follows: ‘Wow, you learned a lesson, you overcame a problem? Congratulations, here is your reward… ANOTHER problem.’ Each time we show the universe that we can take the heat, life becomes a little hotter! It is simply one of the painful aspects to this path of learning, yet it is beautiful because of the growth we experience from it.
The main thing to remember here (going full circle) is that it is our friends who come to teach us these lessons. It is our soul friends who (by our consent) hurt us, our friends who betray us and our friends who give us our opportunities to learn.
In order for these experiences to seem real, we naturally forget that they are our friends when we cross over the river of forgetfulness (birth). If you would rather be happy than right, just pretend that they love you, it will definitely change your perspective!
We may often find ourselves comparing our journeys, our happenings to others. But as mentioned, we are all on our personal paths - we all came for our personal teaching and everyone's is different in some way or the other. So you might find that for one person, that same path isn't flowing for another; sometimes even not possible for one or the other. It's all written within our soul purpose, all apart of our karma.
Learn to love and honor your personal journey. No one will have the same as yours and you won't have one exactly like another. We could go through the same exact experience, yet take away different understandings and teachings from it depending on how we are viewing it. When there is an obstacle along the way, see it as something the Universe, God, the Hand placed there for you to overcome. The good, the bad, the ugly - all a teaching and all apart of your personal process. And the Universe will never throw anything your way that you cannot overcome. Your path is yours and you are the master, the creator! Pave the way beautifully, authentically, and personally, for you! We are all right where we need to be. Carry with you this perspective and reach for the good in situations: everything is happening for you, not to you.